When Life Throws You A Curveball

(This is a little bit personal)(Not too much though)

I thought my life was perfect up until last Tuesday. I was enjoying my classes, I had great friends around me, and then it happened, an event that I thought I would never get over - my friendship with one of my best friends ended.

It occurred so randomly that I didn’t really have time to process it, and it left me devastated for a couple of days. During that time period I didn’t really eat, didn’t go outside my house, it was kind of as if I was paralyzed and couldn’t do anything.

Spoiler alert - I eventually got over it completely once I accepted it as a lesson.
While I can’t talk in detail about the event in question, I know each and every one of you will experience the same thing because that’s how life is.

Life will inevitably throw you curveballs when you least expect it, whether that’s a job loss, unexpected health problems, relationship changes, or unexpected opportunities.

At first, you might be confused or angry, or feel feelings of guilt and regret. I want you to know that’s normal. You might be feeling sad or not yourself for the next couple of days, and that’s also normal - healing takes time.

What really helped me was forgiving myself - I kept thinking about all the actions I could have done to make the friendship work and that just perpetuated the cycle of guilt. It wasn’t until I really sat down and forgave myself that I was at peace with the situation.

So what can we learn from this?

While you can’t predict what life gives to you, you can control your actions and how you react to it. The event already happened, the question is now, how do you respond?

For me, I choose to look forward to better things - and to do that I just have to go forward one day at a time.

See you guys next Wednesday!
Owen